Why can’t we predict the future?

Wouldn’t it be nice to have the ability to know what was going to happen tomorrow, next year, until we die?

It would do away with a lot of the suspense and gut wrenching decision making that we go thru every day.

Which college or career is best?

I don’t think any of us as parents knows the right answer to many of our personal questions let alone the answers to everyone else’s. But for some reason we are supposed to know all and always know what the outcome will be. Especially for our children.

Unfortunately, we cannot foretell many of the determining factors that influence the potentially varying outcome.

I like to study, analyze, watch and observe, ponder and rationalize what may happen.

Am I good at it? Not as much as I would like to be. There seems to be this unmeasurable quantity that I fail to account for most often. Humans.

Recently Crystal was having a conversation with a family member. The family member was getting overwhelmed at humanity and technological struggles of every day life. Crystal had a simple response.

“Don’t worry about it. Dad will figure it out.”

Hold up now! Jolopeame!

Is it my job to figure it out? Perhaps yes, perhaps no.

Do I always find a solution? 9 times out of 10, yes.

Is it always the best solution? Of course not!

My concept is that we are placed into our children’s lives not to have a crystal ball and have all of the right answers but to assure them that we will find a solution together to whatever the problem may be.

I struggle at times at helping the girls open their eyes to the many solutions there are to one problem.

My goal is to not make decisions for them but to help them by opening their mind to the chance that there are more ways to see any problem.

Again, reading the crystal ball may be easier but not as much fun.

Let’s open our eyes to the fact that we do not know it all, we need to make better decisions for our own lives, that we make mistakes, and that we are often overwhelmed  before we can help our kids make better decisions for their own lives.

The rebuke that stings the most is that of our own child when they point out the obvious stupidity with which we are acting.