This may seem like a continuation from “Who are you?” but it was not intended to be so.

The other day as we got out of the car and were walking to school Dixie realized that her and Crystal were wearing the same exact yoga pants. Immediately the argument became who put them on first. Does it really matter who got dressed first? Logic would say that whoever showered first (they share a bathroom) got dressed first. We may never know who put them on first.

Arguments will come and go. Battles will be won and lost by each and every one of our children at one point or another. Should we celebrate their victories or console with their losses? What happens when there is a winner and loser?

This is a complex topic for another day.

Today its about my epiphany that morning, Twinzies!

Life doesn’t always set you up to see something so obvious. I believe that the real issue on hand wasn’t who put those yoga pants on first, but it was more about Dixie wanting to dress like or be like Crystal.

This is my perspective and they may never admit this but Dixie looks up to Crystal. So  much so that she will even buy clothes that are identical. Do they have the same taste? They don’t have the same taste in food, music, boys, or many other things. What brings them together and makes them look like at times is the mutual respect and love that they have for each other.

This is good to see and understand but can also be concerning.

Who are your children trying to be like? Are they trying to be like their brother or sister? Are they trying to be like you, the parent? Are they trying to be like a fictitious reality star? If you pay attention you will be able to see who they are trying to be like.

Have I scared you yet?

This should challenge us to be better people, friends, parents, spouses, siblings, and children every day we live. We should live our lives in such a way that they strive to be like us. We will never be perfect but we can always improve and be better than yesterday.

I don’t want my daughters to dress like dad. That would not be good.

My character and beliefs are what I hope they seek to replicate.

Do you want your child to be your twinzie?